Thursday, November 6, 2014

Still Real Life...

So I am still living real life, but my reality is different than it was 4 years ago. I now have a 5th year college senior. I have a 15 year old getting ready to start drivers ed in a couple months. I have a blossoming 9 year old little girl. And my sweet baby boy is a fireball 6 year old in first grade. I am a work at home mom that has the house to myself (if you don't count the adorable cocker spaniel keeping me company) 3-4 days a week when all the children are at school and the breadwinner is out... well, winning bread(?)

Some may wonder why, since all the kids are in school all day long, do I not go get a job. Well, because I don't have time for a job! No one else is gonna do my laundry, dishes, lawn mowing, floor sweeping, bill paying, and meal preparation. My children are even old enough to be home by themselves for short bursts of time. But, the joy that they and I share when they get off the bus and I greet them at the door with an after school snack, is something that is short lived. Meaning, in 12 short years, I don't get to do that anymore.  In less time than that, they won't greet me at the door with a happy grin, they will all eventually turn into teenagers. And we all know that teenagers lose their ability to smile at the drop of a hat.  So, while they still like me (part of the time anyway), I will be here for them. And I am here for my dearest hubby, who works very hard at providing a paycheck with which to pay those bills and buy those after school snacks. Someday, maybe I will enter the workforce again. But not today. Today I have littles to welcome home and dinner to prepare for my family.

Meanwhile, I try and fill in the gaps with selling my handcrafted crochet creations. Or peddle my amazing home baked pies and other goodies. Or occasionally sell items that have been outgrown, but somehow still have some usefulness left in them. I will also sometimes barter items or services with other people that my find themselves a little shy on the cash side of things. But we get by. And God provides.

And... Life. Goes. On... Real life.

Monday, September 6, 2010

Here's Real Life...

"It happens before you know it... the handprints  get higher and higher, then suddenly - they disappear."

You conceive, you patiently wait nine months (give or take), you get up at 2am to feed and diaper change, you kiss their boo boo's, you bake cookies for their class, you give advice, you scold,  you teach, you hug, you kiss, you transport to numerous sporting events, you are there when they are let down, when their hearts get broken, when their car is broken, when they just need a shoulder to cry on, and eventually, all too soon, they are grown and gone. I dropped my oldest baby off at college on Saturday and leaving him there was the hardest thing to do.  He is 7 1/2 years older than our next one, so he has become a friend.  He was our "right hand" man. He is BUBBA to our other three, which translates to hero, friend, playmate, comforter... He is SO missed right now. But that is part of life. You have babies and before you are ready those babies grow up to be men and women and you really hope that you have taught them all they need to know. But even if you feel like you weren't finished with them, God is never finished with them and will continue to shape and grow them long after they leave your nest. We will adjust to life around here without our Bubba, and in the same way he has to get used to living without his 5 other family members, and with a roommate and 6 other suite-mates. He adjusts well to change, he always has, that, among many other things is a Gift that he has been given from his Creator. So until next time... I will be trying to cut down my crying for him to only once a day or less. I will be training my younger children to do the things that he usually did. And... I. will. survive. With God's help.

Wednesday, September 1, 2010

Life changes in the blink of an eye...

 The article that I have linked at the bottom of this post brings to mind my own small town where the suicide rate is the highest per capita in the NATION. Sadly, we have had several teens in our community commit suicide in the past few years and this article really brings to mind what circumstances can do to a person, especially in this fragile economy right now.  There have been many times that I have wanted to just sit down and give up... too many bills, not enough money, not enough time, too many commitments, the list goes on... But the one thing that has kept me going is this... 

"17The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles. 18The Lord is close to the brokenhearted  and saves those who are crushed in spirit. 19A righteous man may have many troubles, but the Lord delivers him from them all" Psalm 34:17-19 

God has never promised that believers won't have struggles and hardships in their lives. He has promised, however, that He will be there as a refuge in those times of troubles. I wish wholeheartedly that those teens that have taken their own lives had known this truth before making that horrible last decision. 

The following is an excerpt written by Trent at "The Simple Dollar" Click the link at the bottom to go to the full article... well worth your time.

 Bad Luck That Changes a Life

Quite often, the only difference between the people we look up to and the people we look down upon are a handful of little events. A parent that cared a little more. An unexpected death. A bad test result with no positive reaffirmation to get up and give it another shot. A lost promotion. A hurtful comment at an emotionally weak moment. A flash of anger, by them or by someone else. A bit of peer pressure. The opportunity to make a connection with someone who can open a door.
Our lives are full of these little events, most of which are out of our control. It’s those events – and how we react to them – that determine much of what we have in life, and what we work for.

Click below to read the entire article...

Everything’s So Easy for Pauline: Thoughts on Luck, Fate, Money, and Life